DO NOT LET FEAR WIN

Learning a new skill when you are older is difficult but not impossible. It’s never too late to achieve anything. A simple example would be me always wanting to ride a bike since I was little. All my siblings and friends at the time could ride a bike except me. I was not allowed to go near the bike because I was “too short to try” even though I was taller than some of the kids that rode really well. I was both ashamed and fearful of the bike. Ashamed because every kid I know could ride and fearful because I was constantly told I would have a big fall and end up in the hospital if I ever got on the bike. As I got older my fear of the bike grew that my heart beat so fast and loud at the thought of climbing a bike. However, this fear is not just about getting injured anymore but I found that my personality dreaded engaging in any activity where I have no control of the outcome. I feared that bike ride is simply beyond my control and I would definitely crash.

As a much older person, I decided to try. How can I say I couldn’t do it when I have not even tried? I couldn’t let fear win, I just had to try even if I fail. Few months ago, while I was holidaying in Dubai at my brothers’ place, there was a big bike, I tried to get on it but my heart kept failing me. I asked big brother for help, I was determined. This bike was too big that my feet couldn’t touch the ground. So, big brother asked a neighbor for their bike which was too small and the neighbor in turn went to another neighbor to borrow theirs. Big brother was doing his best to explain the process to me. I simply stared at him but couldn’t describe the kind of fear that gripped me. Anyway my lesson started. It was a rigorous exercise, I didn’t get it on the first day but I was determined, I got the concept though and on getting back to my base, I bought a bike and that was when the real failure started. I fell off my bike at least eight times and on one of those occasions, broke my wrist.  Well guess what, today I can ride like a pro and had been training a friend who asked for my help. Right now I couldn’t be happier of my achievement, I got on the bike today and was the happiest soul as I tried to help my friend. I explained to her that if I could do it, she definitely can and today we made a big progress as she is able to pedal a short distance.

So, I insist, it’s not too late, it’s not impossible, it’s not embarrassing, it’s not meant for some people. Don’t let fear/doubt win. YOU CAN DO IT………….JUST TRY!!!!!!!!

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Starting All Over Again

Life can be very confusing sometimes, there is no manual on how to navigate the crooked road. But no matter how far you have traveled on the wrong way, you can always make a U-turn. There is always room to start all over, do not let shame keep you on a path to nowhere. Shame of what others will think or say and how you will be mocked among your friends, really? Can you really call people who hate or laugh at you when you fail your friends? Or maybe it’s just in your head, maybe people don’t even notice your failure because truth be told everyone is busy with their personal life and lots of people can’t even be bothered with your problems. Have you thought about the possibility that those who knows about your failures will see you as such a strong person and admire you when you pick yourself up and start from scratch? So what is really your excuse? Why are you stuck on a path that leads to where you don’t want to be. Maybe you are giving yourself false hope, believing that somewhere along the road, a miracle will happen and everything will work out as you want them. This may happen on rare occasion but I won’t count on it.

It’s time to go back to the drawing board, identify all past mistakes and why you made them, forgive yourself and be kind to yourself, define who you are now and who want to be, clearly state where you want to be in the near future and how to get there, then wipe the slate clean and start over. This is your responsibility, life as we know it is a very personal journey. We are expected to help people along the way but how can we help others if we are helpless and in need of help ourselves.  One thing I know is that you can do it.

My Hobbies and Interests

In this blog, I would like to talk a little about me and my daily routine. Thankfully, I look inward for my happiness. The external factors do not trip me. People’s words, perception and reaction to me whether positive or negative does not have any effect on me because I understand that, that is their individual feelings and its their prerogative to feel however they wish. and this feeling has nothing to do with me as a person. with that being said, I also understand that hanging around people who have negative feelings towards you, will on the long run have a negative impact on you, which is why I tend to remove myself from people with negative character generally known as toxic people and I try to do this without having ill thought for them because honestly “life is too short to be upset about things you can’t control or to even suffer for things you can totally live without”

Now to my daily routine, I wake every day, play inspirational songs, sing and dance my heart away. this usually get me in a very high mood throughout the day. I’m not an early morning person so wouldn’t usually go to work in the mornings. i would rather dance around the house until midday. My hobbies include making music, playing tennis, watching movies and hanging out with friends. I also like trying new things and going to places of interest. I love talking to my friends and could spend hours on the phone just talking or chatting with those really close to me. I enjoy good company and love to have a good laugh. I love road trips. I love looking and feeling good, and I do this by using the best skin care product I could lay my hands on as well as exercising and keeping fit. I feel blessed to have my family and the friends in my life right now. I do believe that everyone should strive to get descent people in their lives because the kind of people you have around you will determine how calm, peaceful and happy your life will become. Do not be afraid to cut off negative people from your life even if they are family, you can always love them from a distance. You deserve to be happy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Find Your Happy Place

Doing what you love is just the way to go. I highly recommend it. A lot of feeling of disappointment, sadness and failure we experience comes from the dissatisfaction we get as a result of poor choices. I get it, you need to earn money to pay bills, you need to graduate to look good in the eyes of the society. But ask yourself, Am I really happy with the route I have taken? Am I happy or miserable in my job? if the later, then why am I doing this job? your job is a big part of who you are and you spend most of your time in this environment. You need to enjoy what you do. Have you thought about changing job? or maintaining a good work life balance might be all it requires.
The good news is you can do what you love, you can be very happy and satisfied with your life and no, its never too late. “No matter how far you have travelled on the wrong way, you can always make a U-turn”. So, find your happy place, your talent. even when you don’t plan to create a career out of those talents, begin to just enjoy/explore them. I can guarantee, they will open doors.

For example, I have always loved tennis as a sport and would have loved to be a professional tennis player, that didn’t happen. However, I got the chance to play for fun, I took it and every time I’m in the court, the whole world makes sense, I feel like a professional and I come home extremely happy. And then, I thought even though playing professionally would not happen for me in tennis, there are other hobbies that I can prevail in. I got so much confidence from my time in the court that I started working hard on my other interests, developing them and shutting out every negative voice from me and everyone around me and I couldn’t be more satisfied with my life right now. its totally worth it. I’m at a point in my life where I feel like I can do anything.

Never underestimate your dreams!!!!!!!!!!!!

Successful People

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Success means different things to different people. It could be getting that dream job, overflowing with $$$, playing a favourite sports, building a strong family, acquiring many college degrees or simply getting them all (laughs). However, the road to success and mindset of being successful is so different which is why is not up to us to decide if someone is successful or not. simply put, the society’s idea of success is different from an individual’s idea of success.

I consider myself a very successful person today and very proud to reveal that my idea of success is simply becoming self dependent. deciding when to work and when to rest, being free from societal pressure and being able to engage in activities of interested with confidence of a secured future. it is quiet fulfilling, the feeling of being successful is simply amazing. In conclusion, define your idea of success, work hard (research, read books, ask questions, ask for help, never stop) until it becomes a reality and then be proud of what you have done.

In my future post, I would like to discuss different ideas of success and how to achieve them. bye for now!